Connecting Generations

Can you stand one more lesson about generations and their differences? If you doubt there are differences among generations in the workplace, you may not recognize that each generation has their own unique cultural nuances.

I recently had an interesting experience on a personal level while visiting my son. It's an experience about rock music and artistic expression. It taught me we can always learn from each other – and it’s never too late to do so. My son, Erik, spent his teenage years in Washington DC, during what he would describe as the height of the punk rock scene. During that time, I tried my best to be interested even if I didn't understand or appreciate the music. I was not going to be like my parent's generation who constantly berated rock and roll. Full disclosure, I'm a rock and roll junkie, especially rock from the 50s and 60s. That was the music that influenced MY generation, just as punk influenced Erik's.

One of the things Erik always talked about was the indie music scene, specifically independent music producers (independent labels) like Dischord and Teen Beat, who worked out of houses, garages, and basements. I didn't dispute that they could produce records, but how could they have a reach outside their local community. Remember, the Internet was just catching on during that time and social media did not exist.

Fast forward from the 1990s to 2015. There's a documentary called Salad Days about the roots of the DC punk rock scene. Within a month of reading about it in The Washington Post, I'm visiting Erik in Albuquerque, NM and the documentary is playing at a local theater that shows indie movies. Full disclosure, I now understand the indie economy that Erik exposed me to decades ago as I explore the world of self-publishing or indie publishing.

I thoroughly enjoyed Salad Days, and listening to these punk rockers, who now look like totally respectable adults in their 50s (whatever a respectable 50-something is supposed to look like). I learned a great deal about the evolution of their music, their stories. I connected on some level with those stories since I'd lived them second hand through Erik. I recognized the venues since I still live in the DC Metro area. In fact, other than Erik who had met most of the people in the film, I probably had a greater connection than many of the other viewers in the theatre because of my proximity to Washington DC.  I didn’t have to understand or even like the music to appreciate what others were experiencing.

My lesson from this experience is that there are many differences in the workforce, generational differences being one. Generations are shaped by the events that took place in their lives, what and when they were exposed to those events.  It's part of their culture. Take some time to listen and learn the stories of other people. It's a great way to connect.

Choices We Make

Having recently had two nephews graduate—one from culinary school and the other from university—it got me thinking about choices.  In life, we are constantly making choices and some are meaningful and some are just ordinary events but even the ordinary choices can have consequences.

I used to do a lot of college recruiting when I worked at Marriott and one of the questions I always asked was why the student had chosen that particular college. I wanted to hear that they’d researched their field of study and this school had a good reputation in that field or that the school had a Nobel Prize winning professor whom they might be able to learn from.  Of course, that isn’t a question with a “right” answer. What I wanted to hear was how this student went about making decisions.

I heard a lot of answers—many were well thought out decisions while others told me they chose this school because it had a good football team or that their high school love interest went there or it was close to home and they could commute.  None of these were “wrong” answers—but I learned something from the answers anyway.

Then, graduates are faced with the decision of whether to go on to graduate school or enter the workforce. If they opt for grad school, where should they go?  If they opt for work, should they go back to their home town and live with Mom and Dad while putting money away to get an apartment or try to go it alone or with friends?  What job to choose (if offered) is the next big choice to make and that’s one people agonize over when I don’t think they should—because rarely do first jobs meet expectations—it is still a choice that has to be made.

Choosing where to go to school, what to study, and where to live can have a huge impact on what happens later in life.  This brings up what is usually the next big choice we make and that is to choose a life partner. Many people meet in college or at a job.  I was reminded of this recently when Sheryl Sandberg’s husband, Dave Goldberg died so suddenly of a freak accident on a treadmill.  If you’ve read her wonderful book, Lean In, you know she says that choosing a life partner is the most important choice we make and she talked with great passion about Dave and how he was the right choice for her so she could have the career and life she’s had with him as a full partner.  I am sad for her now as she faces going forward without him to raise her young children and continue to be COO at Facebook or wherever her career takes her.

We make choices throughout our lives—where to live, where to worship, where to work, where to travel, who to be friends with, where to volunteer, where to retire…the list is endless.  I hope you embrace the choices you’ve made and will make and don’t have a lot of regrets!  Life is precious and to be lived to the fullest—each and every day!

The Middle Seat

When I fly, I always try to get an aisle seat.  When I fly with my husband, I try to get aisle seats across from each other.  Sometimes it doesn't work, but I always opt for two aisle seats, even if we're separated. 

On a recent flight, he was across the aisle, but a row behind me.  During the boarding process – we were fortunate to have boarded and got settled in early – I turned to ask him something. Before I could turn back around in my seat, I heard the man in the middle seat next to him ask, "Is that your wife? Does she want to sit here?" He was practically levitating out of his seat! You good see the glee in his face. It was saying, "Yes, I can get out of the dreaded middle seat!"  My husband very kindly responded, "Thanks, but she fine where she's sitting."

This got me thinking about organizations and the people who work for them.  More specifically, I got to thinking about the different roles people occupy in organizations.  Just like on planes, there are those very desirable, very visible, first-class roles.  These are the ones which typically get exposure and recognition – the sales person or team who brings in the big account or closes the big deal.  Then there are those still desirable roles in the second tier (translate – economy class) such as the aisle seats which may be occupied by team leaders, or window seats which attract individuals who may want a wide-angle view, perhaps those individual contributors.  Finally, there are the dreaded middle seats – nothing glamorous about them, but they serve the purpose of getting the individual to their destination. 

Middle-seat roles in organizations serve the purposes of the individual and the organization.  The individual has the opportunity to make a living, hopefully a decent one.  If he or she is fortunate, it may be a way to develop some skills that will help with advancement.  These roles are often support positions, positions that are vital to keep the organization working – facilities, production support, administrative services are just a few departments that come to mind.  Are the people who work in these departments visible?

The CEO of a mid-sized organization in a metropolitan city became aware that as the firm grew, he no longer knew everyone by name.  He made it a point to not only be more visible but make sure that the employees in those middle seats were visible.  Twice a month he'd make time to walk though those departments where he didn't have much daily interaction – those support departments – and stop to chat with as many employees as time permitted.  At his quarterly, all-staff meetings, he began to recognize not only the individuals in first class roles who brought in the revenue, but those in support roles.  "Great job by the account managers, but they couldn't have done their job without the infrastructure we have in place. So I'd like to recognize our facilities department, led by Joe.  Joe, would you and your team please stand? Let me take a moment to acknowledge each of you." He'd introduce each member by name and say something about them.  It was so simple and it didn't cost anything.  The return on his investment of a little time and effort was great.  The organization’s turnover was lower than industry average.

For leaders, it's important to move out of the first-class positions and find out more about what's going on in the middle seats.  Recognition is a priceless reward.  Like Norm on the TV show Cheers, people want a place where everybody knows your name.  Make your organization that place for your employees!